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You may have noticed it’s been a hot minute since I’ve blogged.  I noticed because so many people asked me about it.  That was flattering, but also a little uncomfortable.

(My business brain auto-responds to the question with fear: “Uh oh!  I’m not enough?!” Then I have to tap consciously into my most brilliant self to affirm, “I am more than enough as I am.”  There, that’s better.)

Why has it been a hot minute?  I experienced a little writer’s block, perhaps for the first time in my life.  Maybe because there were some important feelings I wasn’t ready to express in public until I could manage to express them in private.  Or maybe for more practical reasons, including that I don’t have the luxury of being “sponsored” like some writers I admire.

Of course even without the blogging, I’ve still been writing.  I write all the time, in my journal and via email.  When one of my clients wrote me “I, for one, would love to be really bored for a little bit.  To feel like I have excess capacity, unused resources…”, I responded “It’s my dream to be bored – just for a little while!  Life is too interesting lately.”

How is my life interesting of late?  Oh, blizzard.  Norovirus.  Type 1 diabetes.  Unemployed ex.  Bar mitzvah.  Braces.  Cousin living with us.  Need I go on?

How do I rise above all this Interesting?  Three keys:

1.    Fierce commitment to my priorities

2.    Unwavering emotional resilience

3.    High-at-all-costs authenticity

For me, applying these three keys meant taking a break from blogging for a while.  Overall, I’m ok with that.  And now I’m excited to be ready to get back to it.

What are your keys to sustaining through a lot of Interesting?  Please share in the comments below.

Need help getting focused and clear in your life, amidst absolutely no boredom at all?  Let’s talk.

16 Comments

  1. Devra W

    Love this, and love having 3 minutes of not-boredom to get around to reading it! Gratitude is the big thing getting me through my latest bout of interesting. Keeping in mind that no matter what I'm facing, I'd rather be facing it than some of the things that my friends and colleagues are facing (and hopefully they feel similarly grateful that they are dealing with their issues and not mine). Trying to be grateful for the reminder to keep working on my emotional resilience…! And trying to remember that having excess capacity is only enjoyable for a short time. Which is why, when I found myself with 3 extra minutes this morning, I chose to *use* them for self-care – in the form of reading your latest blog posts.

    • Debra Woog

      Yes, Devra! You are my inspiration in multiple ways. Good for you for staying in gratitude. This week I actually FELT grateful. I think I’m grateful all the time. But this was different. And I relished it. Gratitude is a key to emotional resilience. And self-care is another. You are so on the right track.

  2. Debra Woog

    Hi Elena! I'm so happy to hear from you. I enjoy your holiday letter but it's ok you didn't do it this year. You are right to keep prioritizing in accordance with your needs and feelings. Let's all say "no! (thank you)" to at least something every day.
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  3. Elena

    I loved this post. There are so many times when I can 100% relate to what you're expressing. For example — I didn't write my annual holiday / year-in-review letter this year. Why? I kinda had writer's block….and, as you said, "there were some important feelings I wasn't ready to express in public…." Many people asked me about it. People are still asking me about it. I'm flattered so many people look forward to reading it…but I don't appreciate the guilt I've felt for letting them down.

    2014 was a tough year for me emotionally….a long-term relationship ended and I didn't see it coming….at all. So…how have I risen above the "interesting"? I've prioritized listening to myself…taking care of myself….not doing things that others want/expect me to do if I don't want to… learning to say no…

  4. Allison S

    I applaud you for blogging in the midst of the Interesting. If we wait until we're bored, until we're all healthy, until everything is "perfect," we would never do anything. Life will always be Interesting. (just sometimes much more so than we would like!) Good to hear your voice here again 🙂

    • Debra Woog

      I completely agree, Allison. Let's not wait until everything aligns perfectly before we take action. We just have to choose our actions carefully so we're doing what's most important. I for one am going to get a manicure tomorrow, because I find them relaxing and having pretty nails gives me a booster shot of calm in my day.

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  5. Ginger Burr

    Beautiful, Debra! So good to have you back 🙂

  6. Kira

    Dear mom,
    I love your blogpost so much!

    • Debra Woog

      Hi sweetie! Thank you for reading my blog! Your support and encouragement mean the world to me. I love you!
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  7. Paula G

    Good to hear from you here!

    I like your fierce, clear commitment and keys.

    Thinking of you often……

    P
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    • Debra Woog

      Hi Paula G! Thank you for stopping by and commenting. You and I share the quality of "fierce", don't we?!
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  8. Melissa Tapply

    As I read, I am empathizing with that feeling of not being enough, simply because there's to much to BE right now! I find myself physically uncomfortable for you and your lack-of-boredom and realize my discomfort is really my own desire… need… for a little boredom. What a luxury that would be.

    All that is to say that this blog very much speaks to me, and I think it will speak to many many others. Thumbs up and thank you, Debra!

    • Debra Woog

      I SO appreciate your comments, Melissa. It helps me to know that my thoughts and feelings resonate. I know you, and you ARE enough and you HAVE enough. The choice is up to you about when to accept that and let yourself step back from DOing way more than enough.
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  9. Jennifer Zwiebel

    Love this Debra. Love how willing you are to be honest, to put it out there–it helps the rest of us know we're not the only ones!

    Things that help me rise above "the interesting":
    1. Gratitude, practicing it consciously and consistently
    2. Truth–giving myself quiet time and space to write it out, look at it, and respond to it consciously and compassionately
    3. Love–bringing myself back to a place where I can be entering a conversation from a place of love and belief that we're on the same team, or that everyone's doing the best they can

    Love you Debra! xo jen

    • Debra Woog

      Thank you, Jen! I like your list of what helps you rise above the Interesting. I'd like to adopt Gratitude for my list too. And Love is an essential component of emotional resilience. Glad we can walk this journey together!
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