How To Use Your Coach

Use your coach as a resource, not as an answer. Your coach is trained to listen, inspire, educate, manage, and guide. Your coach is also trained to initiate conversations, share ideas, make requests, clarify your thinking and support your decisions. Your coach does not have the answers. You do! Your coach will help you discover them for yourself. So, let her.

Keep and be on time for coaching sessions. It is not an exaggeration to say that you’ll probably reach your goals faster if you make coaching sessions a priority. Do not cancel or reschedule. Do be on time. Be rested, present, and ready to work. Coaching is a gift you give yourself.

Come to a coaching session with an agenda. It’s your goal and vision. It’s your life. It’s your problem. It’s your opportunity. So, get what you want out of each session! Don’t wait for the coach to initiate. Come to each session with a list of questions, a concern, an opportunity about which you want advice, or a problem you are ready to solve. Use the Coaching Session Prep Form in your welcome packet. Now, the coach can help.

Relentlessly, get your needs met. Ask your coach to help you discover your critical needs in life. Getting your needs met is not optional.

Inspire the coach, in good times and bad. A coach needs to be inspired by you, your actions, and what is happening in your life. How do you do this? By being human, fully communicating about your feelings, listening to the coaching, and getting back in the saddle when you’re ready. Inspire, rather than impress your coach.

Get yourself heard. Being fully listened to is an integral aspect of coaching. The more you are fully heard, the more you can accomplish. So make sure your coach is hearing all of what you’re saying, even when you can’t fully articulate it.

Under promise, don’t over promise. Sometimes you may find yourself promising yourself and your coach too much. Experience has shown that most clients do better promising less and accomplishing more. Playing catch up with too many promises to too many people robs you of energy. Under promise, produce more, and enjoy the surplus.

Tell others about being coached. Having a coach should not be a secret. You may find it empowering to share with others what you are learning and accomplishing with your coach. You are the lucky one to have a coach to work with. You grow faster and accomplish more with a coach.

Keep yourself well between sessions. Coaching requires energy: emotional, intellectual, even physical energy. You will notice bigger results if you take extraordinary care of yourself while being coached. Go much farther than you ever have before by developing daily habits that keep you on top of your game. There is no point to wealth without health.

Enjoy the session. You and your coach have work to do, but that doesn’t always mean intense effort. You may laugh a lot together during your conversations – at life, how you’ve grown, how things happen. Coaching sessions aren’t frivolous, but they are enjoyable. You deserve to enjoy your life now.

Reprinted with permission from Madeleine Homan