In my last post I wrote about my attempt to create my geographically co-located village. And although I was following my Speed Blogging Rules (i.e. no censoring), I’ve continued to feel uncomfortable about having it out there in the blogosphere. I mean, who wants to publicize that it’s hard for her to make friends? Plus, I try to focus more on for whatever I’m grateful than for whatever I’m wishing. So today’s post will be about the flipside of the search for my local village: my abundant virtual village.
Last weekend I spent an enjoyable few days in Jersey City (who knew?) with my mastermind “sisters”. I was inspired in multiple ways by my coach Heather Dominick and the 18 other women entrepreneurs in this group, all of with whom I feel a special kinship. We celebrate each other’s successes and collaborate to support each other where we struggle. We encourage each other to step up to be the powerful women we are each meant to be, both with cheerleading and with tough questions. We have an active on-line community, but nothing beats face-to-face time, when we present, dine, and dance together.
When I returned, I went running with my friend Cristin, a former colleague with whom I’ve recently connected on a more personal level. We are at different points in the development of our businesses and our families, but on similar journeys. I am grateful we have deepened our connection.
Last week I also had the pleasure of Skyping with a new friend and coach, Bea Benkova. She asks wonderful questions, pushing me to explore my fears and doubts, as well as challenging me to accept my own gifts. She asked me to articulate who I am, what I stand for, my promise to my clients, pointing out that as I grow, everything not aligned with my vision for myself will be spotlighted, awaiting my choices so that I can continue to transform. I stand for feeling joyful, illuminated, and open to receiving as well as giving. I am passionate about helping my clients access these experiences in their lives and businesses as well. I am ready to release anything that’s eating my vital energy so that I can create large leaps with freedom and ease. For myself and my clients, I must let go now so I can leap later.
As I write this post I’m having an “a-ha” moment. I can and do hold three different perspectives at once: I am still struggling to feel connected locally; I am deeply grateful to have wonderful women from around the world in my life and business; I am increasingly able to embrace the fact that in some real ways, I am alone.
Building on one of Heather’s themes from our mastermind, I am very aware that where I am committed, I’ll do whatever it takes to succeed, and where I’m merely interested, I’ll do only what’s convenient. It is not convenient for me to build my business while caring for my children and navigating the legal system on the path to divorce. Fortunately, with the support of my virtual village, my vision is clear and my commitment is strong. I’m here, locally and globally, virtually and in person, for the long haul.