Source: http://workingmomsagainstguilt.com

Source: http://workingmomsagainstguilt.com

One of my clients is overwhelmed.

Okay, most of my clients have been overwhelmed.

But for this one, the feeling comes in regular waves.  And when one of those waves crests as it moves closer to shore, she asks me what to do.  In these moments it’s time to revisit her Unique Definition of Success.  Your UDS is your home base.

Today we focused in on her Priorities. We started by reviewing her top 5 from June, the last time we updated them:

  1. Rest & take care of myself 
  2. Home environment
  3. My marriage
  4. Family 
  5. Current income

When I read these to her (with detailed description of each, not included here to protect her privacy), she was genuinely surprised. She had no recollection that the last time we did this exercise she decided self-care was her #1 and earning money was her #5.

This client has so many fantastic, high-value ideas for her business and her clients.  She also has the all-too-common tendency to beat herself up when she’s not implementing them all at once.  She feels inadequate when she feels overwhelmed.  My job as her coach is to remind her, with loving honesty, that she is only human.  And that she is brilliant.  And that she is enough.  As is.

I asked her to consider carefully whether the above are currently her top 5 priorities.  Everyone’s priorities change as circumstances change (for example, last time when she did this it was summer, and now her kids are mid-school year), so it’s really important to revisit them at least once or twice per year.

After some reflection, she decided #2 was no longer in her top 5, and a new one had arisen.  She also reordered her top 5, refreshed her detailed definitions of them, and chose one next action for each.

Here is her updated list:

  1. Rest & take care of myself
  2. Family
  3. My marriage
  4. Friends & Community
  5. Current income

An hour after our coaching session ended, she emailed that she had already booked a restful activity for herself for the next afternoon.  She said that our coaching session had shifted her from feeling overwhelmed and inadequate to feeling “relieved, calmer, clearer and really proud of what I could now see I’d implemented and accomplished over the past year.”

Take a moment to reflect.  What’s your top priority right now?  Share it in the comments below.

Feeling so overwhelmed that you feel you can’t choose?  Let’s talk.