Step It Up

Step It UpI haven’t written a blog post in so long that I’m afraid I’ve forgotten how.  How did I think up topics? How did I have the courage to express myself publicly? How did I wrap everything in pithy little lessons?

Over the past six months I’ve focused on overhauling my website and branding.  I’m so excited that’s done!  And I’ve been toying with the idea of writing about the tremendous pressure U.S. women professionals are under these days. 

Ironically, I’m not feeling tremendous pressure myself lately.  The tools I teach my clients are working, for me and others.  I have been clear about my priorities.  I am organized.  I am focused on the next right thing.  And right now the next right thing is writing a blog post.  But what to write?

I’m hungry.  I think I’ll have some lunch and come back to this question.  Fortunately I have everything on hand that I need for nutritious One-Bowl Eating.  Be right back.

So… my website looks different.  It feels like me.  It looks like me.  I am proud of it.

Similarly, my life feels different.  It feels like me! I am proud of it.

My Hypercompetence feels different.  I’ve evolved to a Functioning Competent.

What about how I look?  My hair is longer than it’s been in decades, and blonder! It’s different.  It feels like me!  And I have some killer new sunglasses.

In short, I’m showing up in the world in a different way.  And I feel called to write about it. But that scares me. 

What if people know I’ve been feeling at peace?  What if people know that my life —the very one that’s so chock-full of responsibilities— feels (even temporarily) manageable? What if they no longer associate me with struggle and instead associate me with joy and ease?  What if I jinx my good feelings by publicly acknowledging them? Through the process of today’s free-writing I’ve realized I have fear and shame about potentially triggering negative consequences with my newfound degree of alignment.  

That said, a Higher Brilliance tells me it’s time to step up, onto the next level of the staircase of my life.  [bctt tweet=”A Higher Brilliance tells me it’s time to step onto the next level of the staircase of my life.” username=”connecttwo”] It’s time for me to step up and be more easily seen. It’s time for me to step up and enjoy the new view.  (And if I scare or anger any forces as a result, maybe it’s time for me not to look their way anymore.)

I am ready to show up in the world in a different way.  I am ready to own my good feelings!  My role in the world is in part to demonstrate compassion, insight and inspiration.  I am ready to step it up.

How about you?  Is it time for you to reestablish your identity, through your career or your appearance or some other way?  How does that idea make you feel?  What is it time for you to own?  Please share in the comments below.


  1. Bobbie Adkins

    I’m thrilled to have traveled a bit of this journey with you. Making this website – this brand ‘feel like you’ is huge. This IS something to be proud of. Your hard work here shows! Thank you for inviting me into your business, and for valuing my guidance here.

    • Debra

      I couldn’t have and wouldn’t wanted to have done it without you as my partner! #BuiltbyBobbieROCKS!

  2. Nance Spacemom

    Welcome back. I’m glad you’re at more joy and ease! I’m still trying to find me.

    • Debra

      Thanks, Nance! It’s a work in progress for us all. Let me know if I can help in any way. I’m here for you!

  3. Stefanie Frank

    As someone who is also stepping to the next level of her own staircase I really appreciate your perspectve on this. Thank you.

    • Debra

      Hooray for movin’ on up, Stef!

  4. Paula Gregorowicz

    Glad you are back blogging!!

    And of course a hearty congratulations on the new site. It is boldly YOU and wonderful.

    • Debra

      Thanks, Paula! Your perspective on this means the world to me!

  5. Josh Brickman

    For me I’d love to just shout out to the world that I’m finally happy. But I need to be cautious as unfortunately not everyone is feeling the same way. But I’ll live vicariously through you Deb, thanks for getting back to blogging!

    • Debra

      You are one of my inspirations to get back to blogging, Josh. Thanks for always encouraging me.

  6. Stefanie Frank

    I was speaking with someone the other day and he disgtinguished for me coming from pattern and coming from truth. We operate via the patterns that have been engrained in us for who knows how long. Seems like you are operating more from (your) truth.

    Also this same guy told me I was “thinking too big.” Such a relief to hear that. “Think bigger” and all of it’s associated soundbites feel like a buzzwords. Jargon. Focusing on the next right thing (to use your wording from this post) feels absolutely right for me – and has gotten me a lot further lately than thinking big.

    It’s not that I don’t have big goals (I do), it’s that I’ve not always been willing to do the work (the real work) to reach them. Now I am. Thanks for illuminating some of these important facets of ourselves through your experience and articulate way of writing. Appreciate you.

    • Debra

      That distinction – coming from pattern vs. coming from truth – is wonderful. Thank you for seeing me as operating from my truth. I feel that to be true. And I agree with him otherwise – I’m sick of more/harder/better/faster. I appreciate YOU!